How Can I Help Someone Who is Grieving?

  • Be active. Don't wait for the grieving person to contact you. Make a call, send a card, help with practical matters. Don't avoid others who are grieving because it feels uncomfortable - it can mean a lot to show a gesture of caring.
  • Listen. Give him or her a chance to talk about whatever thoughts or feelings are on his/her mind. Try to be accepting and non-judgmental.
  • Don't minimize the loss. Avoid clich├ęs like "They lived a good life."
  • Allow the person to grieve as long as he/she needs to. Don't place your expectations on him/her.
  • Take time for yourself.