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Violence Prevention

Violence Prevention Programs
Dean of Students Office
Virginia Solan
TLC 232-A
University of Idaho
Moscow , ID 83843-2431
Phone: (208) 885-0688

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Does your partner show these common examples of abusive behavior?

If you answer yes to one or more of these signs, think about reaching out for resources to explore your thoughts and options. 


  • Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    • Taunting you in the name of “fun.” 
    • Ignoring you and/or your feelings. 
    • Insulting you repeatedly. 
    • Yelling at you. 
    • Telling you that you will fail. 
    • Blaming you for her/his faults. 
    • Threatening you with violence or retaliation. 
    • Threatening to hurt your pets. 
    • Telling you that you must stay because you can’t make it alone. 
    • Accusing you of being violent when you protect yourself in any way. 
    • Labeling you as crazy, stupid, bitch, bastard, ugly, or a whore. 
    • Blaming you for things that go wrong. 
    • Holding back approval as a form of punishment. 
    • Threatening to abuse the children and/or get custody of them.
  • Financial Abuse

    • Controlling funds so victim does not have access to purchasing basic needs. 
    • Denying the victim the right to seek and/or maintain employment. 
    • Taking victim’s personal money with or without permission. 
    • Excluding the victim from making financial decisions.
  • Physical Abuse

    • Destroying your belongings. 
    • Throwing objects at you.
    • Touching you in ways that hurt or scare you.
    • Twisting your arm, slapping, or biting you.
    • Pushing or shoving you.
    • Depriving you of food, shelter, money or clothing.
    • Threatening you with weapons.
    • Hitting, punching, or kicking you.
    • Strangling or throwing you.
    • Abusing you to the point you need medical treatment.
    • Breaking your bones and/or causing internal injuries.
    • Causing a miscarriage or injuries that require a therapeutic abortion.
    • Denying you medical treatment.
    • Inflicting permanent disabling and/or disfiguring injuries.
  • Sexual Abuse

    • Talking about you or others as sexual objects. 
    • Forcing you to have sex, including sex after a beating. 
    • Criticizing your sexual performance. 
    • Withholding affection to punish you. 
    • Accusing you of looking at, talking to, or having sex with another. 
    • Forcing you to engage in sexual activities that are uncomfortable for you. 
    • Inflicting harm or mutilation of your genitals. 
    • Strangling or slapping you during sex. 
  • Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    • Insulting you publicly. 
    • Texting you incessantly. 
    • Controlling your use of money. 
    • Putting down your abilities. 
    • Checking up on you. 
    • Taping conversations. Following you from place to place – stalking.
    • Demanding all of your attention and resenting any focus on others. 
    • Making a public display of destroying property. 
    • Threatening to hurt your extended family and friends. 
    • Isolating you from friends or activities. 
    • Spending paychecks without meeting obligations.
  • Spiritual Abuse

    • Discounting your sense of right and wrong. 
    • Denying, minimizing, or ridiculing your spiritual beliefs. 
    • Denying you value as a person with legitimate wants and likes. 
    • Questioning your motives for just about everything. 
    • Questioning your sense of reality. 
    • Refusing to allow you access to worship communities or support groups. 

Adapted from: It’s Not Okay Anymore, Greg Enns and Jan Black, Hannibal House, Inc., 1996.