Listen, Respect, Engage
There are so many strategies and simple actions you can offer a friend who is being stalked. Remember, women and men can be stalking victims. One in 6 women and 1 in 19 men will be the target of a stalker. The following are suggestions for helping a friend or family member deal with stalking.
- Talk, listen, respect, and be emotionally available. Accept the fact that the stalking is happening. Don’t minimize the behaviors that have occurred.
- Understand that it is not your friend’s fault.
- Listen non-judgmentally.
- Suggest options and actions but let him or her decide what action to take. Visit these Resources to learn more about options.
- Let your friend talk about his or her fears, but don't force a discussion.
- If you know the stalker, do not share any information with him or her about the victim. Do state your desire for his or her behavior to stop. Be firm.
- Do not attempt to moderate between the victim and the stalker.
- Offer shelter if possible, but know and communicate your limits about your own safety and needs. Alternatives to Violence of the Palouse offers safe, confidential shelter for stalking victims.
- Educate yourself on stalking and services available. Check out the vast resources and links from the national Stalking Resource Center.
- Talk with people you can trust and take care of your own emotional/physical health.
- Don’t post information about your loved one on social networking sites. Never use sites like Facebook or Foursquare to reveal their current location or where they hang out. It's possible their partner will use your post to find them. Brush up on your knowledge of digital safety.
- Allow the person you're trying to help to make up their own mind.