What Can I do to Help the Grief Process?

  • Specific suggestions for resolving your grief (adapted from Rando):
  • Give yourself permission to feel your loss and to grieve over it.
  • Accept social support and tell others what you need - find others you can talk to.
  • Be realistic in your expectations of yourself as a griever - give yourself some slack. Don't expect yourself to perform at peak capacity while you are grieving.
  • Take care of yourself - allow yourself time to do special things for yourself.
  • Give some form of expression to all your feelings.
  • Participate in social and cultural rituals - funerals, personal rituals, etc.
  • Be patient - take whatever time you need. Don't give yourself a deadline to be "over it". 
  • Allow yourself to have good times and enjoy yourself without guilt.
  • Maintain contact with others who have experienced the same loss. If you are a college student away from home and have lost a family member, keep in close contact with those at home experiencing the same loss.
  • Talk to a professional or your clergy.